BackWhere do I begin?
Sometimes, starting a conversation can be the biggest hurdle to having one. Here are four ways to do it.
Start it yourself
Make a neutral comment about an issue, for instance: “It feels like the only news I see on TV these days is bad news about guns.” Wait for the other person to respond with their view.
Ask a question
Start with a neutral question like, “Have you been following the guns debate at the Legislature?”
When they go first
Acknowledge what the person said and respond with some version of “I hear you on….” or “I get that this is important to you.” Genuinely listen to them. When people feel heard, they are less likely to respond negatively.
Find common ground
Start by acknowledging something you both agree on, for instance: “I know both of us want our kids to be safe in schools.” Finding common ground helps prepare people for challenging conversations.